Our life as a Muslim mom involves playing different roles with integrity. We have many responsibilities- from praying 5 salahs on time to providing great halal food to raising conscientious kids. Looking great as a hijabi mom is often put on the back burner, because seriously, who has the time, right? But it’s so important to look nice as a hijabi mom. How you look on the outside has a major impact on how you feel on the inside. Feeling great about yourself boosts your self-esteem and improves your mood and your productivity.
I like to look nice as a modest, hijabi mom. But when you raise kids all on your own, you consider yourself lucky if you can take a shower for 5 few minutes, uninterrupted. But looking goods entails few tasks- from putting on a nice hijab to wearing pretty shoes, all of these steps can seem daunting with everything else going on in our lives. I had to come up with a simple and effective system that would result in creating a beautiful, modest mom every time I’d go out (or stay in). The first step to looking nice is to build a functional hijab friendly capsule wardrobe.
What is a capsule wardrobe? Capsule wardrobe is a small collection of useful and beautiful seasonal clothes and accessories that represent your true style. Each item is deliberately chosen by you and you look graceful every time you wear them. It helps you maintain an organized closet and reduces the anxiety of what to wear when you are pressed for time.
Who can benefit from a capsule wardrobe-
- If you have a messy closet and you can’t find what you’re looking for when you need it, often.
- If you have a closet full of clothes but nothing to wear- happens more often than you’d like to admit.
- If your closet has clothes based on celebrities, magazines and others people but they don’t represent your style so you don’t wear them.
- If you keep wearing the same old clothes again and again- like sweats or kurtis, or abayas because you can slip them on whatever you’re wearing.
- You want to look beautiful but can’t find the time, money, energy with everything going on in your life.
It’s time to have a functional closet with clothes that brings out the best look in a hijabi mom- gracefully modest.
How to build a capsule wardrobe-
There’s no perfect capsule wardrobe that works for everyone since we each have different types of bodies and personalities. You create your own unique wardrobe that works well for you. If you’re not sure what type of clothes look best on you based on the type your body shape, you can go to joyofclothes.com. This website can help you find out the shape of your body, discover outfits that flatter you and create your unique style. You can also create a virtual model and try on different clothes to see what clothes/accessories would look good on you.
The plan for a capsule wardrobe is to have clothes, accessories and shoes based on 2 seasons, Fall/Winter and Spring/Summer. Why 2 seasons and not 4? Because it’s simpler and more efficient to keep clothes out that work well for 2 seasons and keep the rest boxed for the other 2. It’s easier to switch wardrobe twice a year as opposed to 4 times a year. You sort out all your currently owned items according to 2 seasons and keep wearing the same great pieces until the next season rolls in. Fear not, you’re allowed to add or subtract items as needed.
The Steps to build a capsule wardrobe-
Clear Your Closet-
Take out all items from your closet, dresser and storage boxes. If this is overwhelming for you to accomplish it in one day, you can divide and conquer. But I highly recommend doing it in a single day so you stay motivated and have a new beginning at the end of the day. It’s important to take out every single piece you own so you don’t revisit this task anytime soon. You may feel overwhelmed to see the number of items you have accumulated over the years but knowing this number is important. Now you will want to make a difference in your wardrobe and in your life.
Spread a bed sheet on your floor and put all your clothes, and accessories on the sheet. Shoes can be left on the floor.
Sort the items-
When all your clothes are out, sort them into the following piles-
These are the clothes you love to wear. They are of great quality, looks beautiful and fits well on you. These are reliable pieces that you wear frequently. Put these clothes on your bed.
Items that are neither beautiful nor useful to you. Gifts that don’t compliment your looks. Too many old items that clutter your closet. Add everything that don’t fit you anymore.
Re-purpose or discard-
Items that are in poor condition-worn out, faded, ripped, holey clothes go to the discard pile.. You can keep a few t shirts and use them as rags but limit yourself on the number.
Repairables and renewables-
We all have these items that we don’t know how to pull off. It could be a sequined 3/4 sleeve top that requires adding extra sleeves or an oversized abaya that needs altering. It could also be incomplete pieces, a skirt that needs a top or a dress that needs a cardigan etc. Put these items into a box and turn them into useful pieces. Take them to a tailor or even better, fix them yourself. Find the pieces for items that are missing pieces for a finished look.
These are the tricky items that clutter our closet the most. You want to keep them but don’t know the reason. If you’re struggling to part with them, get a box and add these items to the box. Keep this box in your garage or in your basement. Out of sight, out of mind works wonders with these boxes. Donate this box whenever you’re ready.
Sort your shoes and accessories following the above steps.
Select and Choose-
There’s no magic number of items that works for everyone. There are no magic clothes that suit all of us either. It could be a tactile issue, body type or simple preferences. You want to build a capsule wardrobe that works uniquely for you. Select and choose items that you already use every day and reach out for them all the time. They make you look gracefully modest almost effortlessly.
Work with what you have now to keep things simple. A simple capsule wardrobe may look like this-
- Long sweaters
- Party clothes
- Ethnic clothes
- Hijab pins
- Espadrilles/ wedges
- Workout shoes
Now make two piles for the items you want to keep. 1 pile is for Fall/Winter and the other pile is for Spring/Summer. Organize your closet with in season items. The out of season items go to a storage box after they are laundered. My out of season clothes are kept in a tote box in my closet. I use the same box every time I switch my wardrobe. It keeps things simple and takes less time.
Do’s and Don’ts-
- Do. This. Now.
- Wear the clothes, accessories, shoes that you picked for your capsule wardrobe. Mix and and match to see what works best for you.
- It takes time to get used to wearing clothes that look great on you, especially if you’re used to wearing baggy, over-sized clothes. Be patient with yourself.
- Donate the giveaway items immediately so you don’t look for clothes that don’t serve you.
Benefits of a capsule wardrobe-
A capsule wardrobe ensures a graceful hijabi mom. A streamlined closet reduces mental debates and eliminates decision fatigue. It makes looking beautiful in minutes possible when you have too much going on. It takes less than 10 minutes to look graceful and modest, from hijab to shoes when you have a streamlined closet- no more arduous decision making before going out, no more wondering what to wear and no more wearing clothes that don’t look good on you.
A beautiful hijabi mom matters a great deal. It uplifts you and inspires others to be modest and beautiful. The best of all? It frees up time that you can use to connect with the Most Beautiful, Al Jameel(swt).